Category Archives: Grief

Grief is Selfish…

self·ish adjective \ˈsel-fish\ : having or showing concern only for yourself and not for the needs or feelings of other people Full Definition of SELFISH 1 concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself :  seeking or concentrating on one’s own advantage, pleasure, or well-being … Continue reading

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The top ten things I say to my clients…

In no particular order: “You don’t get over it; it changes. It gets different.” You’ve heard the expression “time heals all wounds”? I despise that expression! Time changes the wounds, but there is usually a nasty scar left in its … Continue reading

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Feeling is healing…

pain[ payn ] unpleasant physical sensation (from bing dictionary) Dr. Alan Wolfelt says that “doing well with your grief means becoming well acquainted with your pain”. He also says you have to “feel it to heal it”. Corny, I know, … Continue reading

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The Physical Pain of Grief…

Definition of pain (n) Bing Dictionary pain [ payn ] unpleasant physical sensation: the acutely unpleasant physical discomfort experienced by somebody who is violently struck, injured, or ill feeling of discomfort: a sensation of pain in a particular part of … Continue reading

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The *How* of Grief….

Definition of emotion (n) Bing Dictionary e·mo·tion [ i mṓsh’n ] heightened feeling: a strong feeling about somebody or something agitation caused by strong feelings: agitation or disturbance caused by strong feelings As I’ve said before, grief effects us each differently based on … Continue reading

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Translating: “Normal” Grief – Part I

nor·mal   adjective 1.   conforming to the standard or the common type; usual; not abnormal; regular; natural. [This definition is from Hmmm…’Conforming to the standard’?  ‘Common type?  Usual?  In relation to grief?  Nope.  Grief is at times messy, chaotic, overwhelming, enlightening, educational, relieving, painful, etc. etc. etc.  There is nothing standard … Continue reading

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